Others Can See Your Priorities - Can You?
If you want to find out what someone’s priorities are in life, check out what they do, not what they say. Does their walk match their talk? Actions really do speak louder than words, and people in your life are paying attention, whether you know it, or not. Others can see your priorities, can you?
On the group coaching calls yesterday and the day before, we talked about how to manage multiple priorities, and discovered in the process that it’s really easy to get waylaid by other people’s priorities. Most people don’t consciously open up their calendar to the world and hand anyone who walks by an invitation to fill it up with obligations and events, but that’s what it looks like when you’re unable to say ‘no’. You can have priorities in place but without firm boundaries, those priorities are going to be compromised time and time again. The price you pay for that is decreased self-respect and diminished respect from others (among other things.)
If you say your family is your first priority in your life, would anyone be able to tell that by looking at your life, or would they have to hear it from you to know? No matter how busy you are, do you find ways to connect with them and let them know they are as deserving of your time and attention as anything else in your life?
What about you? Do you make yourself a priority in your life? Strange concept for some people, I know, but think about it: How much quality of life do you have if you are consistently last on your own list? What does that tell others about you? Likely, you’re sending the message, “You and your priorities are more important than me and mine.” Is it any wonder you’re stressed out and feeling unappreciated? Sometimes the answer to gaining self-respect and the respect of others lies in doing less, not more.
You can do a self-check to see how far out of whack your priorities have become. Take a look at your life over the last month, or so. How did you spend your time? What did you do? This is another opportunity to go to the balcony to get some perspective and clarity on your life. Whatever you find when you look, remember the ability to create the life you really want to live is entirely within your grasp.
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