Cynthia Nixon and Christine Marinoni

In Sunday’s New York Times Magazine, the one-time Sex and the City star, now preparing for the lead role in the Broadway show Wit, was profiled and she said some things that have LGBT activists up in arms.

“For me, being gay is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me,” Nixon “I understand for political reasons why some people want to kind of squelch this idea that being gay might be a choice, because a lot of the rights we want are posited on the supposition that why are you denying me my rights any more than if I were created a different color? But I don’t feel the need to cede the definition of what a gay person is to the bigots.”

In a responsive interview the actress told The Daily Beast.

“I don’t pull out the ‘bisexual’ word because nobody likes the bisexuals, Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals.”

The Big Mistake

Cynthia Nixon is bisexual.  Yet she made a distinct decision to constantly use the word “gay” in her New York Times Magazine interview which allows the public to utilize, without interpretation, being gay is a choice.   The mistake is Cynthia’s inablility to embrace her bisexuality. She is afraid, or loathes, her bisexuality. She is scared of the consequences of being bisexual.

Her girlfriend, Christine Marinoni, is 100% gay.  Not a choice.  Which means that there were hundreds of conversations between Marinoni & Nixon about her sexuality.  One of the consequences of being in a relationship with a bisexual is this – Marinoni lives everyday with the fear that “today is the day” when Nixon decides to go back to men.

Cynthia Nixon bisexuality is not a mistake; Nixon claiming herself to be gay while burying her bisexual is the mistake.  To ride the fence of sexuality as a bisexual means that there is a responsibility to be open and honest with yourself.  Cynthia Nixon would rather say “gay is a choice” rather than “I am bisexual and I choose to be with Christine Marinoni”.  Nixon would rather damn “the gays” than be open and honest about being “bisexual”.

When Nixon was married to Daniel Mozes (they divorced in 2003) she never said “I chose to be straight”.  It is only when Nixon develops a relationship with another woman her ‘bisexuality journey’ transforms into a ‘gay journey’.

“I don’t pull out the ‘bisexual’ word because nobody likes the bisexuals, Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals.”

That is so true.  This is why nobody likes bisexuals . . . because just like Cynthia Nixon you conveniently ignore the obvious . . . if you are bisexual – be bisexual. You are not straight, you are not gay . . . you are bisexual. Nixon would rather be a “gay by choice” than a “born this way bisexual”.

The damage of Cynthia Nixon choosing to say “gay is a choice” rather than “I am bisexual and I have decided to dedicate my life to  …” is easily seen by the mass media coverage.

Another sad day for stupidity, self loathing and fear.