What Makes a Man Divorce His Woman?

This is both an easy and a complex question. It could get ugly in this diatribe, so back out now if you can’t take it.   Of course if your wife was / is a bitch, in every sense of the word, and not just because you think so, than a divorce is very understandable.  We only live once, and what would your life be like, what would be the value of it if you stayed with such a woman?  I can tell you it would be meaningless and downgrading to you.  These marriages have every right to be terminated.  Hopefully, if you have kids, you and not the ex-bitch get custody.  No one wants their kids raised by a mean mom.

Many people think it is crazy for a man to ask for a divorce when he has a decent wife and is raising a family and life seems so easy and flowing along into the future.  But there is almost always more involved than what is seen by the public.  Life in a comfortable family where love is barely present is tough for many men.  All men, at least to my knowledge, crave good sex and physically attractive females at some point in their life.  This varies in time.  Some men crave this into their 50-60’s and others only crave it to their 40’s.  For others it may stop once they are married.  You cannot throw all men together in one basket.   A huge problem in marriage that goes unmentioned many times is the lack of desire that occurs when a man’s wife becomes unattractive due to age or because she just doesn’t care if she is attractive (being comfortable in marriage).  For most women this isn’t as much of a problem since they find personality in a man as attractive as anything physical.  This is a volatile situation.  Too many people, especially women, are assuming that the husband will be forgiving and not care that much if his wife is not as attractive as she was.  Some of that is true, but not all of it.  Almost all men I have known go through some mentally tough times when they realize they aren’t that physically attracted to their spouses any more!  Many times the wife never even knows this is occurring.  This is a larger problem than you imagine and it is worse when men have attractive females they work with, or see regularly.  Increasingly many men will daydream about past lovers and it can even become mentally all-consuming.

The simple fact is, if the husband is still horny regularly, but his wife is now unattractive to him (many times through her fault), than his eyes and thoughts will wonder.  He doesn’t want to have to ”self-fufill” himself constantly.  It is a point of tension in many married lives, and it must be recognized as a legitimate problem sometimes leading to a man asking for a divorce.