Domestic Violence Awareness

.. AND THE RECOVERY They were in love. Everything was wonderful. They'd been together for twelve years. They were expecting their second child and they were delighted. And then came the unexpected telephone call. The phone call from the 9-year old boy asking to speak to his "Daddy." BETRAYAL. The trust, the dreams and the hopes all shattered in an instant with the revelation that her husband of twelve years had a secret relationship and a secret child for nine years! "I love you baby. You... Read Full Story

I'm drawn to work & people that provoke thought for me. Even if I don't agree with it - I take it in because I find I learn more from disagreement, about myself and about the way Hashem works in each of us. I used to read a site called THE DAILY OM. The other day the article du jour was entitled BLAMING OTHERS. At the end it said: We do this by forgiving our parents, even if they have not asked for our forgiveness, so that we can be free. We end the abusive relationship with our partner, who... Read Full Story

Everyone knows what 'coitus interruptus' is -- but what you really need to know is what 'emotional obsession interruptus' is! The last few weeks I have been talking about the inherent traps, pitfalls and perils of the holidays and how people get roped back in to the pathological relationships during 'weak moments' of family fantasizing about normal relationships. I also said that there are no Normal Rockwells, oh, I meant 'Norman' Rockwell's with narcissists and psychopaths. As much as you... Read Full Story

From this great site: The not-so-bitter truth “You’re just bitter.” This is a phrase commonly used to silence women. Another variation says, “You are so unforgiving.” The bitterness accusation is used to bully a woman and tell her how she “should” feel instead of asking her how she does feel. Someone who uses this label expects her to pretend there has been no harm, no foul. She is expected to pretend the one who hurt her is a great person, even if she knows he is a terrible person... Read Full Story

In recognition of Domestic Violence Awareness Month Just as not all victims are the same, not all perpetrators of harm are the same either. There is a temptation to 'lump' them all together -- making 'who' they are that makes them abuse the same as other abusers and what they 'do' as abusers the same as other abusers. Perhaps this is where Domestic Violence theory and pathology theory walk different paths. Pathology is often the missing piece in looking at the domestic violence or abuse... Read Full Story