Domestic Violence Awareness

When we are in the presence of a charming individual, we feel different about ourselves. We are lighter, freer, more expanded. The narcissistic charmer draws us into his world. We know from high level narcissists who ooze with charm that attracting and magnetizing people to him is his forte, his solid gold gift.  Many high level narcissists are masters of eye contact, the ability to hold someone with their gaze, especially if there is something that they want from us. Otherwise, there head is in the air, we are dismissed and they are back on the hunt for a more likely candidate.  Human charm ... Read Full Story

The narcissist is the most clever of manipulators. To him or her, life is a game in which he/she always wins. The people in his life are pawns in his grand chess game. Like a great chess master, the narcissist knows most of the moves he is going to make very early in the game. Individual human beings are his chess pieces: some are rooks, other knights and the special ones he plays with great skill are kings and of course the most coveted---the queen. It is difficult for most of us to understand how a flesh and blood human being can perceive and use ... Read Full Story

Narcissists, specifically those who are very successful in the world, are consummate actors. They write, direct and act in their own productions. Narcissists find others to play co-stars, character roles and bit players. These are the members of the narcissist's circle that keep his ego inflated at all times. The actors directed by the narcissist exist only as narcissistic supplies who flatter him with perpetual praise, are willing to serve him in any capacity and will put up with his dark side when things get ugly. The members of the narcissist's company of actors are individuals who don't feel strong or adequate enough to ... Read Full Story

You might think that this theme is taken directly from a British turn of the century novel. It is both classic and tragic. A scheming family member takes control of the family estate through the psychological manipulation of the parent, acquires executorship and as a consequence his/her siblings are left with nothing but emotional pain, deep resentments and a bitter taste of betrayal. Narcissists have been stealing family fortunes for thousands of years and they continue this form of treachery to this day.  Often a favored narcissistic child engages is a special kind of subterfuge with the parent who views him as perfect and godlike. This child proves to be indispensable to the parent---priceless. As an adult ... Read Full Story

The narcissist draws a magical, golden circle around himself or herself. Those inside this chosen enclave are privileged. They breathe the ari and walk in the footsteps of a great man or woman. The narcissist is center and source, their raison d'etre.The narcissist knows how to tap into the infantile, demanding child inside of us that wants it all. He strokes us with his magnetic charisma.   Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. Telephone Consultation Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com Read Full Story