When we are married to a narcissist, we become part of his/her grand delusion. Spouses play the role that the narcissist has written for them. The narcissist is a master manipulator. He knows how to get exactly what he wants from us. He understands what we need in exchange for giving him or her our lives. With a narcissist there is always the excitement and promise of the next grand adventure---a new business, lucrative investments, designing and building a dream home, exotic travel. It is so... Read Full Story
One would think that with all their womanizing, multiple marriages, affairs and trysts that male narcissists adore women. They may believe they do or convince others but the truth is that they both fear and despise women. Narcissistic relationships are parasitic, based on what you can do for them. Narcissists broker romantic arrangements that benefit them. They are incapable of genuine relationships with expressions of love, tenderness or respect. Some male narcissists change female partners... Read Full Story
Physicians rotate the time when they are on call. They do not work twenty four hours a day every day. Some surgical specialties require many hours in the operating theatre at a time--10-12 hours or more. That is the exception. Private physicians expect and deserve to have time away from practice to be with their families and enjoy uninterrupted periods of solitude or actiivities with friends. There is neither solitude, leisure, peace or breathing space when you are married to a narcissist... Read Full Story
In my book "Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life" I say: "Intuition is a moment of truth that arrives faster than a brain wave or the sharpest flash of lightning. It is an instantaneous illumination..." Intuition tells us the truth. Everyone has intuition. It is a matter of tuning into this gift and using it. When an intuitive thought or image comes to you, pay attention. Don't override your intuition, especially with regard to narcissists. No matter how smooth or brilliant... Read Full Story
We are all deluded in varying degrees. Some individuals are more "awake" than others. Most people believe their personal story of a happy family. They tell us: "I came from a good family. Mom and dad were nice people. I had a good childhood." Really? Often this is the story that we tell ourselves so we don't have to remember the truth about what actually happened to us. The same is true about spouses who are married to narcissists. They are brainwashed by the narcissist to believe that... Read Full Story
When a narcissist is shrieking and writhing right before you eyes and you are related to them by marriage or family, it is very unpleasant to say the least. Narcissists frequently burst into fits of rage when their adoring audience is not present to watch the ugly melodrama. It is their spouses, ex-spouses and children who get the brunt of these horrific scenes. To preserve their impeccable image, most narcissists are the opposite in public and considered above reproach---even fine human... Read Full Story
The narcissist arrives and moves into our lives with striking, compelling outer packaging. Often he or she is very attractive, bright, a social standout. The narcissist always has a plan up his sleeve about the people in his life. He asks himself: "What can this person do for me?" "Can I make money or achieve higher status through his contacts?" "What's the best way to get rid of him/her after I've gotten what I want?" "Who is the next person on the horizen who can fulfill my desires... Read Full Story
Do we need another soft spoken preacher suspiciously falling over young children. You decide http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4ffr9n4zE0 Read Full Story
When we are in the presence of a charming individual, we feel different about ourselves. We are lighter, freer, more expanded. The narcissistic charmer draws us into his world. We know from high level narcissists who ooze with charm that attracting and magnetizing people to him is his forte, his solid gold gift. Many high level narcissists are masters of eye contact, the ability to hold someone with their gaze, especially if there is something that they want from us. Otherwise, there head is... Read Full Story
Narcissists, specifically those who are very successful in the world, are consummate actors. They write, direct and act in their own productions. Narcissists find others to play co-stars, character roles and bit players. These are the members of the narcissist's circle that keep his ego inflated at all times. The actors directed by the narcissist exist only as narcissistic supplies who flatter him with perpetual praise, are willing to serve him in any capacity and will put up with his... Read Full Story
