The narcissist arrives and moves into our lives with striking, compelling outer packaging. Often he or she is very attractive, bright, a social standout. The narcissist always has a plan up his sleeve about the people in his life. He asks himself: "What can this person do for me?" "Can I make money or achieve higher status through his contacts?" "What's the best way to get rid of him/her after I've gotten what I want?" "Who is the next person on the horizen who can fulfill my desires... Read Full Story
The narcissist begins the "relationship" with the seduction. He has a special brand of magnetism at his disposal. The narcissist is appealing to our ego needs and desires---our deepest longings to feel unique, talented, loved, attractive,bright. He makes us believe that we too can become gods. Visit my website: Linda"> Linda"> Linda">www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. Telephone Consultation Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com Read Full Story
When we are in the presence of a charming individual, we feel different about ourselves. We are lighter, freer, more expanded. The narcissistic charmer draws us into his world. We know from high level narcissists who ooze with charm that attracting and magnetizing people to him is his forte, his solid gold gift. Many high level narcissists are masters of eye contact, the ability to hold someone with their gaze, especially if there is something that they want from us. Otherwise, there head is... Read Full Story
Those who by decision or fate who are closely involved with the narcissist squander their lives. The are trapped in the shadow of the narcissist who expects them to do his/her bidding 24/7. Visit my website: Linda"> Linda"> Linda">www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. Telephone Consultation Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com Read Full Story
The narcissist is the most clever of manipulators. To him or her, life is a game in which he/she always wins. The people in his life are pawns in his grand chess game. Like a great chess master, the narcissist knows most of the moves he is going to make very early in the game. Individual human beings are his chess pieces: some are rooks, other knights and the special ones he plays with great skill are kings and of course the most coveted---the queen. It is difficult for most of us to... Read Full Story
Narcissists, specifically those who are very successful in the world, are consummate actors. They write, direct and act in their own productions. Narcissists find others to play co-stars, character roles and bit players. These are the members of the narcissist's circle that keep his ego inflated at all times. The actors directed by the narcissist exist only as narcissistic supplies who flatter him with perpetual praise, are willing to serve him in any capacity and will put up with his... Read Full Story
You might think that this theme is taken directly from a British turn of the century novel. It is both classic and tragic. A scheming family member takes control of the family estate through the psychological manipulation of the parent, acquires executorship and as a consequence his/her siblings are left with nothing but emotional pain, deep resentments and a bitter taste of betrayal. Narcissists have been stealing family fortunes for thousands of years and they continue this form of... Read Full Story
When we are small children we are at the love and/or mercy of our parents. Many individuals who contact me have been raised in families where there is a narcissistic parent (s) or sibling(s). These individuals express the pain connected with their childhood experiences of being verbally abused, constantly criticized and humiliated and treated like they were invisible. Some of these children spent most of their hours hidden away in their rooms or when possible going to friends' houses to... Read Full Story
The narcissist draws a magical, golden circle around himself or herself. Those inside this chosen enclave are privileged. They breathe the ari and walk in the footsteps of a great man or woman. The narcissist is center and source, their raison d'etre.The narcissist knows how to tap into the infantile, demanding child inside of us that wants it all. He strokes us with his magnetic charisma. Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. Telephone Consultation Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com Read Full Story
I am writing this blog post to women and men who are involved with and plan to marry narcissists. I have been listening to and reading the most painful life stories of spouses of narcissists. Most narcissists are men but there are many female narcissists in today's self absorbed culture. It is so heartbreaking for the non-narcissistic spouse to find out after a number of years that her partner never loved her in the first place and that he or she was being used like a prop to enhance the... Read Full Story
