Another Reason Women Don't Leave I recently received an email from someone who reminded me of another reason why women don't leave abusive situations. They are afraid for the lives of their pets. According to Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine, a 1997 study of the largest battered women's shelters in 48 states revealed that workers at 85 percent of those shelters had heard reports from women about incidents of animal abuse. And abusers often torture the human members of the family... Read Full Story
How Abusers Stage Their Returns While the smooth talk that it takes to get an abused spouse to take them back varies from person to person, there are five major "strategies" that seem to cover most of the wide range of tactics used by abusive partners: The Honeymoon Syndrome Also known as "Hearts and Flowers", this can include any bribe that will get you to return - and the sooner the better. Common bribes include promises to get therapy, promises not to be violent again (even after a long... Read Full Story
by Kendall Segel-Evans originally published: ENDING MEN'S VIOLENCE NEWSLETTER, Fall, 1989 I recently read the National Organization for Changing Men's statement on child custody, and the position taken that, in general, sole custody by the previously most involved parent is preferable to joint custody. I would like to elaborate on this position for families where there has been violence between parents (i.e. woman-abuse). The following includes the main points of a deposition I was asked to... Read Full Story
Projection , blame-shifting and minimizing , whitewashing or outright denying the abuse. These are three of what I consider to be the WORST OFFENSES an abusive personality or abusive group can do to someone. And a culture of denial literally rips the very soul and spirit of the person from them at its root. Here's some explanation (excerpts): Projecting blame. Abusers often engage in an insidious type of manipulation that involves blaming the victim for their behavior. Such perpetrators may... Read Full Story
There's a silence surroundiing me I can't seem to think straight I'll sit in the corner No one can bother me I think I should speak now (why won't you talk to me) I can't seem to speak now (you never talk to me) My words won't come out right (what are you thinking) I feel like I'm drowning (What are you feeling) I'm feeling weak now (why won't you talk to me) But I can't show my weakness (you never talk to me I sometimes wonder (what are you thinking) Where do we go from here (what are you... Read Full Story
Many of the same qualities valued in on-duty police officers can make those same officers dangerous perpetrators of domestic violence. All abusers employ similar methods to control and abuse their intimate partners. Officers however, have an arsenal of skills and tactics not commonly possessed by civilians. Professional training in the use of force and weapons, intimidation, interrogation and surveillance techniques along with the cultural climate coalesce into a dangerous and potentially... Read Full Story
Log in to: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/allabouthim/2009/05/21/All-About-Him- Click on the arrow on the widget above and turn up your computer's speakers! Lisa's site and support board is http://www.vainencounters.com Narcissus - Alanis Morissette Read Full Story
Myself & Lisa E. Scott discuss Narcissist's Attitudes towards intimacy & sex on BlogTalkRadio . In this week's episode, Lisa & Barbara will discuss that a narcissist not only can not love, but views sex and love as mutually exclusive of one another. Narcissists have what is referred to as a Madonna/Whore Complex, which every woman should understand and be able to recognize. They are also unable to be intimate and use sex as a luring and bonding tool. Their attitudes towards sex in a... Read Full Story
Beyond therapy: Some evil can't be cured by Norman Doidge What, other than our wish that it be otherwise, makes us think that every human vice is treatable by some form of psychotherapy? That this wish is not just naive, but, at times, harmful is illustrated by a recent Canadian study on group treatment for 238 sex offenders (rapists, incest offenders) from Warkworth penitentiary in Ontario. These prisoners included some well-documented psychopaths. All were taught to "empathize" with... Read Full Story
By Samantha E. Poisson Whether it is because most parents can devise a workable child care arrangement or because of the absence of one parent, the majority of separating families, approximately 80% (Johnston, 1994), do not become embroiled in legal battles over the children. The remainder, however, approach the justice system looking for some form of conflict resolution such as mediation, arbitration, assessment, or a custody trial. Many enter the process with a lawyer to represent them... Read Full Story
