Honesty vs. Self Deception

Are you so worried and stressed out because you are in doubt right now that your wife might be having an affair with another man? Do you see the different signs that she doesn't love you anymore and she might be really doing loads of nasty things behind your back? It's definitely not easy to catch your wife from cheating on you, but if you are truly serious to know what's really going on, you will absolutely know the truth. Here are some tips on how to know if your wife is cheating on you: Click Here For Bust Liars Instant Access Now! Tip ... Read Full Story

As I discussed in yesterday’s post , transparency is tricky. While it is often demanded, particularly in the church, there is little in the way of support for those who are transparent. Transparency often means that truth results in consequences, and those consequences are often not good. Still, we need to keep trying to be transparent, even as we evaluate how we ought to go about self-disclosure. Here are some ideas on how to accomplish appropriate transparency: 1. Consider the Scope of Your Transparency My mother once gave me some very wise advice. She told me that if I was ever in a social ... Read Full Story

(Ok, I am going to be transparent: I haven’t posted in a month because I’ve been too busy working on my much more popular tea blog . But I’ve realized that my ministry extends beyond tea, so I am going to try and be more regular about posting here.) Back to transparency. As I discussed in my last post on this subject, we often seek to define transparency by what might be termed “transparency best practices”: We shift from “transparency” to things like accountability and honesty without considering what it is to be transparent. And as my blogging pal Paul Meyers noted in his ... Read Full Story

(Ok, I am going to be transparent: I haven’t posted in a month because I’ve been too busy working on my much more popular tea blog . But I’ve realized that my ministry extends beyond tea, so I am going to try and be more regular about posting here.) Back to transparency. As I discussed in my last post on this subject, we often seek to define transparency by what might be termed “transparency best practices”: We shift from “transparency” to things like accountability and honesty without considering what it is to be transparent. And as my blogging pal Paul Meyers noted in his ... Read Full Story

. . .or What’s the Point of Transparency if you Have To Lie Anyway? Seems that a lot of folks like to talk about transparency. A lot. We also add a whole buncha stuff about “accountability”, and run various workshops and sell books on how to achieve both in our lives and relationships. Which is all well and good until. . . . . . we actually engage in a behavior or are involved in a situation that we are supposed to be transparent about. This is where the trouble(s) start, because, as we all know, transparency means vulnerability. When we make ourselves vulnerable, ... Read Full Story