Laid Off, Pre-Cancerous Cells, and ADHD

So we've had a hell of a couple of weeks. First my husband lost his job. That was a huge blow, especially with this economy and three kids. All I did was cry for about a week. The day after he found out he was getting laid off, I found out that biopsies I had done on two moles on my back turned out a little scary. They said they showed pre-cancerous cells, so now I need to go in for two different surgeries to have skin removed around where the moles are-there goes my stress level. And a couple of days ago we finally took Dare Devil for his appointment with the neurologist to be tested for ADHD. The result? ADHD and a behavior disorder. He's evidently severe enough that they want to put him on medication now. Bill and I agreed before we even scheduled this appointment months ago that we weren't going to do medication so we need to seek alternative treatments.

The thing about DD having ADHD though is that everyone is reacting differently. It's upsetting news, you know. He'll be three in July and we're being told that he's severe. We've known for a while that something was "off" and that he needed to be tested and when I was finally pulling my hair out that was when I called the pediatrician and talked about it. Every where I read says you need a good support system, you need people who will understand what you are going through as parents of a child with ADHD and will give you a break every now and then. The reactions I got when I told everyone went from total silence as in they could care less to telling me that it's not ADHD, it's all in the way I parent and that if I spend more one on one time with him everything will change. I'd really like to hear from other parents out there who have an ADHD child because this is another one of those situations where you can't totally understand unless you're in the same boat.

As far as my husband being laid off, he's looking for work. He's highly qualified, has a degree in business management and so much experience under his belt it would make your head spin. So far all the interviews he's been on want to pay only a fraction of what he was making which unfortunately we can't get by on, of course we can't continue to get by on unemployment either. In the meantime, he's started his on consulting business. It's something he's always wanted to do. It's called Rev Up, llc. So if you know anyone needing a consulting service, please contact me, Lifeofawife@gmail.com. Otherwise, keep your fingers crossed for us that all works out with, well, work.

As far as the surgery goes. I'm scared, really scared. I'm scared they're going to take a lot of skin but not enough to get it all. It's on my back and I'm in a wedding two days later where I have to where a strapless dress. Say some prayers for me please.