Relationship Development and Help

Hmm “Am I Self Righteous or a Hypocrite”? LOL I put that as an either or … but on the weekend I got accused of being both … Ouch that hurt, but like all things it got me thinking. I think we all are, from time to time, at least to a small extent, and I certainly leave my self open to being accused of both because I take a public position on things. The truth is this, I am certainly a long way from perfect and have a lot to be embarrassed about and a little to be ashamed of. I have done ... Read Full Story

SPEAKING OF LOVE AGAIN : The other day I wrote about how my wife knows I love her: because I turn her light off. Literally thousands of people have read that post since then, and the general theme is, the women go, Ohhh and the guys go, Dude sssshhh. :-) I have received so much direct comment, I thought I would share how such a strange thing came about. The simple answer is : I have literally loved this woman since the moment we met. We were individually told that we would be perfect for each other, and, as we thought that was ridiculous, ... Read Full Story

I ended the last post in this series on the subject of preferences. If you all take a gander at this title, you will notice that love is no longer included, and for a good reason. Recall that I began to address a large 'grey-zone' group of relationships that may someday head toward a final breaking point. Recall also, the statistics of this group. Keep in mind that this isolated topic is far from descriptive of all relationships. When couples feel the brunt of individual preferences clashing, we are no longer addressing the premise of the concept of love. However, most of us tend ... Read Full Story

Have you heard of love-hate relationships? Sure you have! I know that a number of people also have this type of relationship with themselves, although in these cases, I would not call it love-hate. A more appropriate term would be, 'acceptance and non-acceptance'. Somewhere in the grey zone, yet not at any extremes. Furthermore, certainly not in every single area of life. In areas where people don't quite accept themselves, they tend to go, 'every which way, but loose'. OK. Some do even that. They run around busy, try to succeed, compete, and achieve those outer goals. Some of them are small, and some ... Read Full Story

In my last post about relationships I wrote of love, belonging, and acceptance. Love can sometimes feel so complicated, and it is therefore all the more important to simplify, and really separate the, "what is what". The majority of couples do not seek help for their relationships, yet I have seen similar threads among those that have entered my office, which gives greater understanding of the larger statistical picture. Through isolating and organizing our complicated sets of feelings and frustrations, many begin to experience that it may not be as bad as it seems. As frustrations culminate it is not difficult to empathize with ... Read Full Story