Relationship Development and help

So your question probably is, "If I am trying to get my ex back, why do we need time apart?" The answer is- would you feel attracted to someone that is depressed, miserable, angry, and just being a downright nasty person? I didn't think so. When you go through a break up, one or both of you are going to be bitter for at least a little while. There needs to be a cooling off period. During this time, take advantage of it, go out with your friends. Get back in touch with your family. Do... Read Full Story

I went on a long camping trip this past weekend with my family and friends for Labor Day. I had a great time, except for when some psychotic ex girlfriend couldn't get a hold of her ex boyfriend. If you want to know how to win ex back, DON'T act the way she did! This little girl, I call her this because that is exactly how she was acting, decided the best way to get her ex boyfriend back was to drive him and everyone else nuts. He unfortunately went out partying one night and left his... Read Full Story

Have you heard of love-hate relationships? Sure you have! I know that a number of people also have this type of relationship with themselves, although in these cases, I would not call it love-hate. A more appropriate term would be, 'acceptance and non-acceptance'. Somewhere in the grey zone, yet not at any extremes. Furthermore, certainly not in every single area of life. In areas where people don't quite accept themselves, they tend to go, 'every which way, but loose'. OK. Some do even... Read Full Story

I ended the last post in this series on the subject of preferences. If you all take a gander at this title, you will notice that love is no longer included, and for a good reason. Recall that I began to address a large 'grey-zone' group of relationships that may someday head toward a final breaking point. Recall also, the statistics of this group. Keep in mind that this isolated topic is far from descriptive of all relationships. When couples feel the brunt of individual preferences... Read Full Story

In my last post about relationships I wrote of love, belonging, and acceptance. Love can sometimes feel so complicated, and it is therefore all the more important to simplify, and really separate the, "what is what". The majority of couples do not seek help for their relationships, yet I have seen similar threads among those that have entered my office, which gives greater understanding of the larger statistical picture. Through isolating and organizing our complicated sets of feelings and... Read Full Story