Sexual Afterplay And After Sex “Etiquette”: Do’s And Don’ts!

There is a quote by Alan Altman:

“Women’s sexuality has a lot to do with intimacy. It has a lot to do not so much with foreplay so much as after-play and between play. If after sex he rolls over and starts to snore, that’s not going to stimulate her to want to have sex again the next time.”

Also, there’s a sex joke:

A man’s advice for women. Her question: What is “afterplay”? His answer: After a man has finished making love, he needs to replenish his manly energy. After-play is simply a list of important activities for you to do after lovemaking. This includes lighting his cigarette, making him a sandwich or pizza, bringing him a few beers, or leaving him alone to sleep while you go out and buy him an expensive gift.

Now here’s a question to you:

So, what do YOU do right after sex? Roll over and fall asleep? Jump up immediately and run off to the bathroom to clean yourself up, leaving your sweetheart alone during the cooling off period? Turn on the TV? Check your phone for messages and missed calls? If so – then this article is for you.

I often hear women complain their men usually not doing enough foreplay and after-play. Well, in this post, let me discuss the importance of afterplay. Specifically, for women. In fact, as mentioned above, to make your woman happy with you in bed you should lead her through the three key phases of lovemaking: Foreplay → Orgasm → Afterplay. As for foreplay, I guess almost everyone understands the importance of it in getting things rolling. And most of us do engage in it almost every time we have sex.

BUT just as important as foreplay is the time right after sex: Afterplay, also known as “After-glow”. As for this part of sexual intimacy, it remains constantly neglected by many couples and, particularly, by male half of the couple. And this is a big sex mistake. Asking why? Because, if handled correctly, the final phase often turns into the starting phase: Afterplay → Foreplay → Orgasm → Afterplay and switching off the gears. ;-)

Ask any woman, and she is most likely to tell you that closeness and delicious cuddling afterward is one of the favorite and pleasurable parts of sexual experience. Most women enjoy and need after-playing. So, what is after-playing and why we need it?

What is an afterplay and sexual manners?

During lovemaking, often rules and manners are forgotten to passion. And this is great! However, remember that right after sex, good manners are still in style and there are some very special actions that should be taken.

Afterplay is sensual and erotic interaction that follows sexual intercourse or orgasm; this is a physical relaxation, emotional togetherness and warmth. In other words, afterplay, sexual manners and after sex etiquette is simply spending more time together when sex is over. After sex, do not leave your partner alone. Bathe in the afterglow of your orgasms. Lie together and caress each other. Savor the taste, smell, and sight of each other. Talk, laugh, and indulge in sweet nothings. It’s really not that hard, right? So you don’t have an excuse not to do it.

Of course, as there’s no “right way” to have sex, similarly, there’s no “right” thing to do when sex is over. Still…

What is not advisable to do right after sex:

• Do not jump up immediately and run to the bathroom to clean yourself up
• Do not roll over and fall asleep (if you can’t help falling asleep, just do it in each other’s arms)
• Do not make any complaints and sexual grievances
• Do not make sarcastic remarks and stupid jokes about the moments you just had
• Avoid humor that can be misinterpreted
• Avoid criticizing your partner’s performance
• Do not make phone calls, or check your phone for messages and missed calls
• Women: do not play with his dick right after he had an orgasm, it’s too sensitive
• Men: do not rub her clit right after she had an orgasm

What’s advisable to do instead:

• Remain naked for some time
• Maintain body contact: massage, cuddle and caress each other
• Use lotions and oils to help relieve tension in the muscles
• Brush each other’s hair
• Have a glass of wine together
• Eat something tasteful; bring something sweet while you lay in bed
• Take a bath or shower together to freshen up
• Listen to the sensual music
• This is a perfect time for a pillow talk: talk about sex, share sexual fantasies and desires
• Express how much you enjoyed what was done and how good you now feel
• Compliments are always welcome after sex!

It’s important to coordinate your after-sex activities, and if you both need a pizza or a snack right now – then do it; it’s fine as long as both lovers want it. Whatever you do in the afterglow time, it is better to do it together! Why? Because it leads to more sex!

Why afterplay is more about women

One explanation lies with the hormonal changes that a man and a woman experience after orgasm. After a man ejaculates, all the physical changes that took place during orgasm, such as heart rate, breathing, muscle tension, body temperature, and obviously, the penis, come down very quickly. Usually, his erection ceases within 1 to 2 minutes.

The female orgasm and excitement typically takes a longer time to build up. Therefore, physiologically and psychologically, a woman also needs more time to cool off and calm down. First, a woman’s clit and nipples get soft; then the pussy returns to its color and normal size; then breathing, heart rate and blood pressure slowly decreases. Because things slowly calm down for women, with additional stimulation, some women are able to reach quickly another orgasm.

Thus, if a man ends sex act by rolling over to sleep or immediately going to the bathroom, the woman is left in bed to come down on her own. Believe me, a lack of after-sex caring makes her feel unappreciated and can ruin all the good impression of you as a lover.

Sure, we all are different and there are different situations, and every couple needs to decide for themselves what they want and need. Share your thoughts on what afterplay should involve for you in order to make each other feel comfortable and fully satisfied. Anyway, remember that most women want emotional connection not only before and during lovemaking, they also want it when the lovemaking session is over.

Afterplaying – what’s in it for men

Most men don’t fully appreciate the need of foreplay, not to mention men’s attitudes about afterplay. But, as foreplay, afterplay isn’t just for women, because good afterplay is often the beginning of the next lovemaking session! Well, guys, want to have more sex, a better sex life and your home happier? Engage in after play with your lady. Good afterplay means more sex! Moreover, men who engage in foreplay and afterplay get more satisfied and happier lovers and wives. It’s because when you give, we women are much happier to give back. Besides, if sex you just had was bad, the embarrassment can also be relieved by afterplaying.

Let’s sum up the rewards of afterplay for men:

1. You get more sex
2. You get better sex life overall
3. You have a happy woman in bed
4. You have a happier home!

The rewards are well worth taking a little bit of time to caress and kiss your woman after sex, huh? ;-)

Finally…

What The Kama Sutra suggests

The Kama Sutra, an ancient text that is one of the leading guides to sensual pleasure and eroticism, explores many things around sex and puts a lot of emphasis on afterplay. It says that what goes on after lovemaking is just as important as what happens before and during it. It tells that sex is not only about physical experience. The Kama Sutra says that some of the most intimate moments and best intimate conversations actually take place after the intercourse. After you’ve both had satisfying orgasms, you should continue to enjoy each other, both physically and verbally, for some time. This is the time when your bodies are full of endorphins that make you to feel good and comfortable.

According to The Kama Sutra:

“Those things that increase passion should be done first, and those for amusement or variety should be done afterwards” (The Kama Sutra, 1883)

Of course, you don’t have to engage in afterplay every time you have sex. There are times for “quickies” and other types of sexual intimacy with no foreplay and afterplay involved. BUT afterplay and sexual manners should take place in your relationship for the sake of better and healthy sex life, for the sake of togetherness and the deeper emotional connection with your lover. Although, to be honest, afterplay is more about a woman, men are not the only ones who should read this post. Women need to read my today’s post just as much as men, because some women do not know much about the benefits of afterplay and don’t ask their lovers to engage in this very enjoyable part of intimacy.

Do you know anyone who doesn’t love a dessert? As for me, obviously, I llllllove desserts!.. ;-) And, in fact, I don’t know too many people who don’t love desserts. Therefore, think of afterplay as a delicious “dessert” that complements a fine “meal”!

DOES ANYONE STILL DOUBT THE BENEFITS OF AFTERPLAY? ;-)


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