It was my birthday a couple of days ago. As always I look forward to becoming a year older. However, as I am definitely too old to go on a Club 18-30 holiday, it has resulted in family and close acquaintances passing comment on the use by date of my womb, etc. Take for example a conversation I had with a male friend, who also happens to be going out with one of my closest friends/ cousins on the eve of my birthday. It went along the lines of this: “Akua, you realise you’re not get... Read Full Story

It’s ironic, a lot of my friends have suggested I write a book/ blog – under an assumed name regarding various aspects of my life including my dating experiences. Obviously, I have been doing this but I have only told a couple of my friends, as I would not want people to have a bad impression of me. For instance one of my sisters asked me why I have gone on dates with a variety of guys.  I had to clarify with her that when I’ve gone on dates it has purely been about meeting ... Read Full Story

Once again, a lot has happened  since my last post, as well as since January. I hope I will be able to tell you all about my shenanigans, but I will obviously start from where my last post paid off. I started seeing Music Man in October.  As per usual it just happened, as I had known him for years after falling in lust at first sight with him and one of his friends over 10 years ago, when they were performing poetry at a university event. In fact, it had kind of been a long standing joke that... Read Full Story

Facebook logo Since becoming single I have become a Facebook addict, becoming a dab hand at using applications.  The reason why I thought I would talk about Facebook on this forum. It dawned on me this weekend that I had been dating someone who I had indicated was attractive on the Sparkey/ Chainn app when his picture popped up, earlier this year.  Obviously as I have lots of things going on it didn’t dawn on me that the guy I had anonymously said yes to ‘Would date’ was act... Read Full Story

Apologies for the delay in getting back to this. My life has been pretty hectic. I’ve been on holiday, found a new job and had a couple of car accidents but as Rick Ross would say “here I am”. My week on the other side of the pond in Hotlanta was a real eye opener to say the least. The stats were startling, the female to male ratio is allegedly 4:1 which means that it is seriously a Dog Eat Dog world. From what I could gather men seemed to expect women to do the chasin... Read Full Story

As the Queen of Hip Hop/ R& B famously sung: All I really want is to be happy And to find a love that’s mine It would be so sweet The reason why this springs to mind is that since I reentered the singles market I have kept myself really busy by having several dates a week with several people. On the whole they have been fun as I may, or may not be, as is often the case close to the centre of attention. However, when I have to spend any length of time by myself I start to panic and... Read Full Story

“What’s the freakiest thing you’ve ever done?” One of the most loaded questions a guy can ask me.  I have often wondered what they really want to hear.  In addition, what is the definition of a freak. My usual response is what you may consider freaky may actually be normal to others,  as I try to skirt around the issue. Were I to respond by saying that I had participated in a number of threesomes.  Alternatively I could say that I had done it with the lights on.  Would... Read Full Story

Peter has had to be dumped into the bin.  However unlike other guys he will be going straight to the incinerator as I can’t allow myself to even contemplate visiting the cess pit that he has come to reside.  You may be wondering why I have confined him to such a fate.  The reason for this is that he attempted to commit as cardinal sin and got found out. He tried to get with one of my best friends.  It wouldn’t have been so bad but his excuses were that: I didn’t know she wa... Read Full Story

The past week or so since my last verbal download has once again been coloured with dates, as well as hanging out with my girls. I’ve spent time with the Original FB. He’s now provided me with a copy of his weekly schedule due to the fact he has to split time between his football (playing) and his daughter. I was asked whether I believed that the only time he had available for me was on a Wednesday. It’s really surprising because I actually do. I don’t mind actually, a... Read Full Story

I promised I would return to the issue of digging in the bin, and the merits of doing this. Many of the discarded men have attempted to get back into my life. One of my good friends thinks that I am on a path to self destruction as I am talking to people that I decided were no good for me. The current contents of the bin that are hoping to be reused are, in no particular order: “The One from my Ends” aka “Trouble” with a capital T. Even during my relationship he was... Read Full Story