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I have been debating about whether to write this post as I didn’t want to cause offence. I have met many men who are hair fascists as they claim they would never go out with a woman if she wore a weave. However does what I perceive to be merely an example of self expression really maketh the person. When I wore a weave, granted it was only four tracks, I got the same amount of attention from a variety of men. People of all races. Now I’m not saying its the hair as this happens to me... Read Full Story

It’s been two years since I broke up with THE ex. Going to bed and waking up alone are definitely the hardest, as you don’t realise how much you take for granted the ability to role over and have a hug. Do I miss my ex? Yes most definitely despite the fact in reality he was rarely there when I went to bed. However, I’m not saying I want to get back with him as he took the piss out of me and I definitely deserve better. Don’t get me wrong I have had quasi relationships since then. However... Read Full Story

L Plate   Apologies for the lul in my blogging.  I cannot believe it is coming towards the end of the year.  Hopefully next year’s blog entries will occur more frequently.  However, in the meantime I need to put finger to keyboard and share some of my recent experiences from the latter part of 2009.  During the summer I dated a guy that caused me to do a few things for the first time.  Firstly he is six years younger than me. To me this was not a major obstacle at first, as I have... Read Full Story

It was my birthday a couple of days ago. As always I look forward to becoming a year older. However, as I am definitely too old to go on a Club 18-30 holiday, it has resulted in family and close acquaintances passing comment on the use by date of my womb, etc. Take for example a conversation I had with a male friend, who also happens to be going out with one of my closest friends/ cousins on the eve of my birthday. It went along the lines of this: “Akua, you realise you’re not getting... Read Full Story

It’s ironic, a lot of my friends have suggested I write a book/ blog – under an assumed name regarding various aspects of my life including my dating experiences. Obviously, I have been doing this but I have only told a couple of my friends, as I would not want people to have a bad impression of me. For instance one of my sisters asked me why I have gone on dates with a variety of guys.  I had to clarify with her that when I’ve gone on dates it has purely been about meeting up , possibly... Read Full Story

Once again, a lot has happened  since my last post, as well as since January. I hope I will be able to tell you all about my shenanigans, but I will obviously start from where my last post paid off. I started seeing Music Man in October.  As per usual it just happened, as I had known him for years after falling in lust at first sight with him and one of his friends over 10 years ago, when they were performing poetry at a university event. In fact, it had kind of been a long standing... Read Full Story

Facebook logo Since becoming single I have become a Facebook addict, becoming a dab hand at using applications.  The reason why I thought I would talk about Facebook on this forum. It dawned on me this weekend that I had been dating someone who I had indicated was attractive on the Sparkey/ Chainn app when his picture popped up, earlier this year.  Obviously as I have lots of things going on it didn’t dawn on me that the guy I had anonymously said yes to ‘Would date’ was actually sitting... Read Full Story

Apologies for the delay in getting back to this. My life has been pretty hectic. I’ve been on holiday, found a new job and had a couple of car accidents but as Rick Ross would say “here I am”. My week on the other side of the pond in Hotlanta was a real eye opener to say the least. The stats were startling, the female to male ratio is allegedly 4:1 which means that it is seriously a Dog Eat Dog world. From what I could gather men seemed to expect women to do the chasing which is still quite... Read Full Story

As the Queen of Hip Hop/ R& B famously sung: All I really want is to be happy And to find a love that’s mine It would be so sweet The reason why this springs to mind is that since I reentered the singles market I have kept myself really busy by having several dates a week with several people. On the whole they have been fun as I may, or may not be, as is often the case close to the centre of attention. However, when I have to spend any length of time by myself I start to panic and... Read Full Story

“What’s the freakiest thing you’ve ever done?” One of the most loaded questions a guy can ask me.  I have often wondered what they really want to hear.  In addition, what is the definition of a freak. My usual response is what you may consider freaky may actually be normal to others,  as I try to skirt around the issue. Were I to respond by saying that I had participated in a number of threesomes.  Alternatively I could say that I had done it with the lights on.  Would either satisfy... Read Full Story