For my new project I am doing a lot of work with books in the self-help genre, reading them, highlighting their best thoughts, cataloging their wisdom noting page numbers in my computer, and getting ready to put it all together in a Cliff's Notes sort of way.   One day it will become a book, the quality of which has not been seen since Dr Seuss began rhyming about ham.  Possibly even collecting dust on a shelf next to the many books it will be referencing. As useful as I am finding... Read Full Story

Can your state of mind, the way that you think about yourself affect the outcome of an upcoming relationship? Does the way you think about yourself matter at all? This might be an important question to know the answer to. If your mental state of mind can affect whether or not you are successful, however you define success in your relationships, then shouldn't you pay a lot of attention to it? Past relationships that have not gone as you would have liked may be related more to your state... Read Full Story

I was once asked, in jest, how I would sum up the differences between men and women. One author wrote that Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, but that to me, only tells the reader that he recognizes a difference, and hopes to explain it through observations. It is true though, that only women are from Venus, because only a woman could survive there. My response however was that women are like a finely tuned piano. Many different keys to press, different buttons that do different... Read Full Story

So when you fall in love, what changes? Hmmm, well lots of things, one for example you might find yourself getting more sex. Thats a good thing. You might find delight in the simple things again. Standing out on the beach staring at the ocean waves crashing in, or a funny TV show. Often without another these things feel lonely but when you are in love those moments are impossible to let go of. They just feel so good you can almost feel the ticking of the clock as time slips away. So many... Read Full Story

Life is not fair. That is a very real statement and I cant think of how many times I have brought it out of my bags of useless things to say after I have seen a tragedy. Life is just not fair. How is it fair also that the guy who regularly begs for money on the corner of my freeway offramp wears Nike Air Jordans? I want a pair of those, but I think they cost around two hundred bucks. That is out of my league for play shoes, and I think I do alright. Life just is not fair. No one ever... Read Full Story

Oh the anger that we all oten feel when justice is not served up to our standards. There is every year a generic story about someone who destroys the lives of people, holes themself up in a motel somewhere, and then kills themself before the police can arrest them. Hmmm, what was the last one? Well that depends on what state you are in while you are reading this. But I bet you have had one this year. Try to remember. Now remember how you felt after you heard he or she 'got away'. Maybe... Read Full Story

There really appears to be a set of both men and women who thrive in the single activities like pigs thrive in mud. To drop them in the middle of a group of other singles is like haveing them airlifted to Mecca. The scripts come to the front of their heads so quickly it comes out as normal conversation. Each type of person they would meet would get a slightly different script from them. One may hear about their 'career' real or imagined, and another may hear about the Brazillian they just... Read Full Story

We love our families for everything they offer us, their support, love, and mutual history. Family is for most of us, not all, everything that is important in the world and at the same time that which we spend the least amount of energy focusing on. The gift of life with them as opposed to life without them is temporary and probably if we look, taken for granted. The time we have with them while they are we are healthy is shorter than we expect because no one expects the unexpected... Read Full Story

We all like sex. There really isn't a person alive that doesn't, no matter what they say. Models, presidents, single people, married people (harder to tell here), pretty people and people who look like troglodytes. Sex with another is not always necessary, although most would agree is the preferred method, but sex is what drives us. For men I think there is really nothing else besides the need for food and water, that makes more of our decisions for us than sex. Men make decisions on what... Read Full Story

Pizza is by its very nature a good thing, and being such has been compared to some of the great things in life in jest. For example, 'Sex is like Pizza, even when its bad it's still pretty good'. Everyone likes pizza, but depending on the health to fat ratio that some of us keep a tally of, we don't all eat it as often as we might like, some never. But nonetheless you would be hard pressed to find someone who would say, especially with the endless varieties of choices, that 'No, I just... Read Full Story