Did you get lost in the marriage?

Some people invest themselves in the marriage and lose their sense of self in the process. You might consider that a marriage is three concentric circles (You, Me and Us). Let one of them go unattended and it is a recipe for disaster. Okay, so what do you do now? Reclaim who you were (and are) and re-fashion that into the new you, but with different hopes and goals for the future.