notyouraverage

This is just a post that I have been wanting to share. Though I do not thoroughly explain everything, I just wanted to touch upon some key concepts that are continually shaping my perspective.  Additionally, I am not claiming to be the know-it-all authority on anything, whatsoever.  I just have learned a variety of thing that I think is compelling and useful for more people to explicitly hear.  Also, if you do not "believe" in evolution (oh, dear) then you might not agree with me, but feel... Read Full Story

It suffices to say that there is a significantly higher percentage of black men who date non-black women than black women who date interracially. Before I begin this analysis and discuss my opinion on the matter, I first want to explain my background and credentials. Because of the career path I aspire to become, I have taken sociology, biology, and anthropology courses and feel that my opinion on interracial dating is grounded in a relatively fact-based background and is hopefully well... Read Full Story

Through getting to know a lot of other people at school and otherwise, I have began to wonder if other members of other racial groups have similar feelings toward their isolation as a member of that group, too. I know a lot of Asian girls who assimilate to white culture and only date outside of their race who are often faced with a lot of upset from fellow Asians and Asian guys. And I'm sure that there are even some white people who feel isolated from the white community, too. Perhaps I am... Read Full Story

The below essay, if you will, was written by me one day when feeling rather down. It is essentially a mini-memoir probably written in an amateur way about high school woes. The endless aisles of utility shelves overflowing with boxes of Sharpie-brand yellow, blue, and pink highlighters, 200 page-count sheets or college or wide-ruled paper, and hard and soft Mead pencil cases overwhelmed me as I visited the local store that was a sanctuary for over-zealous students and worrisome parents early... Read Full Story

My first best friends in kindergarten were two white girls whom I still keep in contact with today. After that, I became close to a girl who was Filipino but was from New Zealand, next was my tripod of black girl, Polish-Italian girl, and another fellow black girl. Then came my close relationship with a frenemy, if you will, who was Lebanese, and now I'm close with my best friend (and one of the most genuine friends I've ever had) whose Jewish. I list these past and current close friendships... Read Full Story

I don't think I get "it". "It" being the way today's youth acts. Let me clarify. My ex-boyfriend attempted to proclaim that I "really do act white." While this expression of his bottled up emotions about how much I seem to act might have been rude (I hate that expression with the fiery of a thousand suns), it really was not that original. Sure, he might think he can justify his rudeness with saying, "oh, you know what I mean!" and "I was just kidding!"... come on now, who is he fooling? Does... Read Full Story

My last post made me wonder if it was simply the rather vast differences in appearance between typical traits of blacks and whites that controlled attraction factors (A.K.A. maybe Black isn't so beautiful). You've probably heard people say it before; "whites want to be just like us, they just don't want to be us . " I have to say to some extent I agree. Collagen/Restalyne to enlargen lips, tan their skin to become less pale, butt implants and breast implants to create a more curvy figure that... Read Full Story

It's safe to say that looking at my past history of attraction to different guys, that they were not interested mostly on the premise that I was not white. Being not just a girl, but a black girl is one of the hardest things to tackle (unfortunately) in life. The idea of trying to be something different seems to scream-- "trying to be white". White they say?! How is trying to simply mold my own interests in music, film, lifestyles,.... anything connotated with a color? This poses a problem... Read Full Story

Hello out there to all of you interested in the life of this "Not-So-Average-Black teenage girl". One event that made me realize how each adjective is crucially important in describing who I am to the world, was a meeting with the Diversity Council of my school. Our typical meetings consist of planning for various bake sales, or informational forums on different aspects of diversity amongst our community, and discussing interesting or new topics that relate to--you guessed it--diversity. We... Read Full Story