As I sit under the cloudy gray, blue skies of England’s beautiful Cotswold region I can not help but wonder about the idea of serendipity; the occurrence of fortunate discoveries by accident. It’s a pretty powerful thing. How many times have you stumbled across an amazing restaurant that soon became your favorite simply because you were so hungry and a little off course that you were forced to find a wonderful new place? How many times have you been lost on the way to an intended ... Read Full Story

I feel like I am always asking myself if hook ups can be the start of healthy relationships. In the past, I have used the example of my roommate, who pursued a relationship with a guy she hooked up with one night. He turned out to be a major jerk, which ended up being for the better. My roommate met a fantastic guy. Enter Mr. Incredible. Ironically enough, he also was a hook up. Although she had casually met him once or twice before, the first real night that they hung out, she went back to ... Read Full Story

I have talked about dating “nice guys” before, and I’ve even sworn against dating them. But they still remain a mystery to me. Why is it that women don’t trust men who treat them right? We so used to stressing and having to work for a relationship that when we find a guy who treats us like royalty that we question him. There is nothing right about this situation. The more we date bad guys, the more we assume that every guy must fit this mold.  And that is simply not true. From personal exper... Read Full Story

It is such a cliché, but lately I cannot help but wonder if there is a guy “who got away” from me. I generally have a pretty good idea of how I feel about guys I am interested in—either I like him or not. It’s simple, right? Wrong. Every once in awhile, however, the black and white becomes a bit gray. The line that should be clear between “boyfriend potential” and “definitely not” becomes blurred. And that is when I become confused. At the time that I was interested in him, he seemed to feel... Read Full Story

This month is the anniversary of the end of a relationship for me. In short, the guy ended up going on a hook up spree while we were still seeing each other exclusively. As you can imagine, I was less than thrilled. As much as I wanted to take a baseball bat to his car, Carrie Underwood-style, I managed to more or less keep my anger under control. Luckily, I got over him pretty fast and can honestly say that I am much better for having him out of my life. With that said, however, I am mystif... Read Full Story

I have been diligently working for months; well actually, well over a year to build myself back into the woman I was before I got divorced. It’s been a damn long road that was not at all fun or easy, but I feel I’ve finally settled into myself again. And while I’m still very annoyingly human and full of massive frailties and insecurities, I feel happy. Apparently life seems to think I’m doing pretty well too, because good things, no amazing things keep happening over the past month. And while... Read Full Story

Last week I cooked fajitas for a guy I’ve been casually seeing for the past couple of months. I was happy to do it, but a part of me was slapping myself upside the head. Why? I guess because I don’t think the guy has really made as much effort in return. Heck, he’s never even bought me dinner! And here I am cutting up chicken and pouring wine? Tsk, tsk. So I’m curious…do you cook for guys you’re dating, or do you wait until he’s earned boyfriend statu... Read Full Story

A couple of weeks ago I hooked up with an Irish guy. Now, the Irish accent has been deemed the hottest accent on a man (sorry, Frenchies!), so I considered it quite the success. There was just one teeny problem. His name was…Fergal. Um, yeah. And cute as he was, the first thought that came to mind when he kissed me was: “I just kissed someone named Fergal!?!” No offense to Fergals out there, but it’s not a sexy name. It sounds like a burp. Even the obvious nickname ... Read Full Story

Okay, ladies. I’m officially on the prowl. The guy pool is running kinda of dry lately, so I’m in search of new places to meet people. I know the usual ways–bars, parties, the gym–but all of these have proven to be no good. Typically I have met guys who were my neighbor (bad idea) and through mutual friends, but all the decent guys seem to suddenly be taken. I am willing to put myself “out there,” but I need to figure out exactly where “out thereR... Read Full Story

“I’m on his wall.” Last weekend my roommate hung out with a hook up of weeks past, someone who we didn’t really expect her to see again. While in his apartment, she noticed something hanging on the wall titled a “snag list.” Yes, it’s pretty much exactly how it sounds. Although four guys live in the apartment, only two names were on the list. Next to those names, tally marks. My roommate is a notch on his wall. What is it with guys and publicizing th... Read Full Story