I have a lot going on in my life. If you are a friend, family member or happen to have read my blog lately, you know this. I’m trying to find my place in this world. I’m trying to crawl from under a rock of a marriage that left me badly bungled. I’m trying to find my voice when it’s been stifled for a long time and heal wounds that run deep. It’s a process. I’d like to wave a wand over myself and BAM! instantly improve my life, heal my heart and free my sou... Read Full Story

Somedays I have no motivation and procrastinate like crazy. A good friend shared this video with me. Perhaps you’ll like it too. Read Full Story

I had my coaching session with Jennifer Priest. Like an eager pupil, I was happy to tell her about my epiphany this weekend. As we discussed it, I talked about the struggles of balancing care of the children with job hunting and a freelance project or two I have. I realized in the past I had created rigid schedules only to be frustrated by them and toss the idea out the window. We talked about thinking of my day as more or less having a framework behind it - a routine - rather than specific t... Read Full Story

My ex thinks the time I have given him alone with the children (I’ve been generous in the evenings) means the children and I don’t have a good relationship. JUST TO BE CLEAR - I give him that time alone as a courtesy because I spend ALL DAY LONG with them without him around and I wanted him to have a chance to be with them without the tension of THE TWO OF US being in the same room together. AND because Olaf has, in the past, said and done very hurtful things TO ME AND TO LUKE I t... Read Full Story

It was a weekend of contrasts. I had a blast with my friend Krista (@BUTTERFLEYES). We enjoyed a mellow weekend of shopping, chick flicks and karaoke. But I was also struggling with the emotional aftermath of the divorce. I faced a painful truth. I, and I alone, had to dig deep and find the strength and compassion for myself. What I needed couldn’t be found in external situations or relationships. And an amazing thing happened. I found that strength. And, in the process, introduced myse... Read Full Story

There’s nothing like a good divorce to have you questioning your sanity and bringing to light every bump, scar, wound, poison, insecurity, fear, negative emotion, pimple, flaw or twisted perspective one could have. It’s like laying on the ground after a near-fatal collision and attempting to stand up and walk away then wondering why in the hell does it hurt so bad, where is all the blood coming from and why the &*#@ is it so hard to crawl, much less walk. And then beating your... Read Full Story

Sunday I treated myself to something rare. I went to the salon and had a professional cut & color. I looked forward to it for over a week. I hadn’t cut my hair in months and hadn’t had my hair professionally colored in more than a year. The lady that does my hair is a sweet Chinese woman. She speaks English fairly well, but occasionally we have difficulties communicating. When I sat in the chair, I explained how I wanted more blonde highlights. (My blue streaks had faded to a ... Read Full Story

The following is a letter I wrote on the urging of my life coach, Jennifer Priest. To give me a better perspective on my situation and show me how to be compassionate to myself, she asked me to write a letter to myself as though I were giving advice to a dear friend. Here is the result. Dear Tawnya, This is a hard time. Just remember - it will get better. You’ll have days where everything goes wrong. All at the same time. But you are strong and you can make it. You might do things you r... Read Full Story

For those wondering where I’ve been - my laptop is broken. I’m still chugging along & will be writing more shortly as soon as I can secure a new one. Thanks for caring to stop by! Read Full Story

I’m about to go to bed for the night. It’s been an odd week. I turned 33. Filed more papers for the divorce. A good friend had a birthday this week as well. “Someone”  was “served”. I was taken to dinner and karaoke by my wonderful friends, Julie and Laurel. I had an AWESOME time and am grateful I have so many people who care about me. I’m also grateful I have the assistance of life coach, Jennifer Priest. If you have questions about life coaching, wa... Read Full Story