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Image by Simon I started a conversation on FB and it got me thinking, especially after reading this article on relationships. Here are a few lessons I’ve learned over the years from being in relationships and being single. 1. Being miserable with someone can’t compete to be happy alone. Too many of us stick with something that doesn’t work because we are afraid of being alone. Why? Ask yourself this question. What about me is so terrifying? Then watch this video for inspiration. See... Read Full Story

Image by Paul Reynolds Ok – yesterday I got about six months of thought off my chest.  I released it – and dealt with it – long before I wrote about it. It wasn’t the whole of the matter. It didn’t touch on my joys of last year or my own faults or extenuating circumstances. And it was mostly gloom with a touch of hope. So today, a little reminder to myself and hopefully to you – life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful. Some of my most cherished memories involve moments in my life... Read Full Story

New Hairdo! It’s been awhile since I’ve sat down and wrote a post. Partly because I was crazy busy, but mostly because I was going through such a private, traumatic turn of events I couldn’t bring myself to blog. I didn’t want to write about what happened because I felt as if I’d barely processed it. Last year sucked. It started great and then with one random, unlucky event, things spiraled down fast. A burn, an infection… I kept blogging through the illness, at least sporadically. But... Read Full Story

(I started writing a novel this month. These last few days, I was sick and so finishing makes it even sweeter.) I Did it!!!!! I finished the rough draft of my novel an hour ago. I’ve spent the last hour popping the champagne and enjoying the moment with my son and a dear friend. I will never forget the moment I typed the last words. I was overwhelmed with emotion. Since I was a child and realized books didn’t just appear, I knew I wanted to write. The last few years, this year in... Read Full Story

In 24 days, it will be exactly two years since my divorce was final. I’ve been re-reading a few posts from those days – listening to the voice of myself and thinking on how far I’ve come and how far I want to go. I’m going to recycle the following from October 2009, titled ‘Feelings’. You can see the original here . It’s still a relevant thought in my life today. The desire to breathe again – to explore and enjoy life as me. Not me fitting into the folds of someone else’s existence... Read Full Story

This is dedicated to a special friend. She’s going through a rough time in her life. But she’s strong and I know that this time won’t last forever. Read Full Story

My Dad and Me - People say he looks like "that guy from ABBA" There’s something about facing death that makes a girl realize she really has to let loose and live her dreams. And it really doesn’t matter if the dream sounds crazy to other folks. It’s not about them anyhow. This dream is all hers. What good would it do to try and live someone else’s dream? There’s no fun OR satisfaction in that. So, after a year filled with accidents and illness and near death and other people around me I... Read Full Story

These are all the different perfume strips from my shopping trip. When I was growing up and into my early 20s, I had an obsession with perfume. I didn’t give a crap if I wore the designer label clothes. It wasn’t important to be seen in them. But I was a perfume snob. I didn’t want the cheap stuff. I wasn’t interested in wearing the designer knock-offs, either. I had Passion, Obsession, Eternity, Beverly Hills 273, Chloe, Chloe Narcisse, Gio, Aqua di Gio, Tresor, Spellbound (I would love to... Read Full Story

Dear Tawnya, You are harder on yourself than anyone else. There is this image you hold, this level of performance you expect yourself to reach. It is a level you don’t require for anyone else. Should anyone else fail some standard, you are much more forgiving and patient than when it is actually you doing the failing. So – here’s the scoop. Last week you had an altercation with someone. This person disappointed you and, in your mind, betrayed you. You had such high hopes of maintaining... Read Full Story

Beautiful Shot by http://www.flickr.com/photos/lutherankorean/ The tell-tale beating of my heart has slowed. For those aware, I had one doctor diagnosing me with pulmonary hypertension. I decided not to take his word for it and sought out another opinion and also visited a pulmonary hypertension specialist in a prestigious clinic devoted to the same. The result? I don’t have it. The stress on my heart was brought on by a sleeping disorder that my new general physician diagnosed. I’ve been... Read Full Story