Now I have just about flippen had it! I phoned Lili on Dolf's cell and his wife answered. She told me that before I can speak to Lili, she wants to know something. So I listened. She wanted my email address, so I told her that Dolf has it and she said they lost it and that Dolf's attorney wants it. So I told her that I will sms it to them, with my address and contact details. I asked her again to speak with Lili and she kept saying that she wanted the details, so i said: "I just told you... Read Full Story

One day Dolf phoned his parents while we were having an argument. I went outside when they arrived because I didn't feel up to arguing with them too. They left soon and when I went back in, I discovered that they had taken Lili with them. I ran to the police station and begged them for help but they wouldn't listen. I phoned my parents and they contacted someone at the police station who phoned Dolf's parents and told them to bring Lili there. When I got there, I took Lili and tried to walk... Read Full Story

My Divorce I was starting to get frustrated and lonely. Dolf was working for a courier business, he was only home every second day. The fights and arguments didn't get any better and his parents made it worse. They too started threatening to take my baby away and told me I had a mental problem. One day I snapped while Dolf was at work. I wanted to contact my parents but Dolf's mom hid the telephone. They started hiding it whenever I was alone at home. I was getting depressed and secluded... Read Full Story

I went for my ultrasound today. I was shocked to see just how damaged my liver really is and according to the doctor I have severe cirrhosis of the liver. I'm still waiting for them to get back to me about my blood tests. Andy is really worried and I am feeling kinda guilty, I know he never really expected to see me like this. I'm a bit upset with something his mom said today, but maybe I'm just being over-sensitive. She knows that Andy and I had a row with his brother and his girlfriend... Read Full Story

By Jessica Soukup, 11/98 "I Do Talk To You" I know you can't hear me....but I do talk to you. And I hear everything you say to me too. I hear when you laugh when I do something funny I hear you yell "Hooray" when I try so hard I hear you tell others how you'd never trade me for the world Even with all the trials I came with. I hear you thank God for what a blessing you have been given. I hear you encourage me when I can almost do it I hear you cry, too, when it gets a little harder And... Read Full Story

My Marriage I met Dolf when I was only 15 years old, I should've known then from his violent behaviour and excessive drinking that it was not the right thing to stay with him, but I was a rebellious teenager and he was a manipulator. Have I known then what I know now, I might have made different choices, but I was young and naive. The early signs was already there... Whenever I left him, he'd threaten to commit suicide and told me that he couldn't live without me. He used to say that if he... Read Full Story

She was 'different' from the start...as though she never 'belonged' I've seen her make people smile and make people cry I've seen people being cruel and making comments It made me angry and it made me cry One day we were standing outside a supermarket and a woman walked by I heard her say to her friend... ″Look at that big baby still wearing a bib″ I felt so angry that I wanted to walk straight up to this woman I wanted to give her a piece of my mind I wanted to insult her and humiliate... Read Full Story

I haven't heard anything from the social worker yet, but at the moment I an trying to just be patient and not worry about it too much. I have been sleeping alot lately, so I don't have much time to think and maybe it's just as good. I went to the doctor this morning and they are doing blood tests and tomorrow I'll be going for an ultrasound of my liver. I feel a little guilty because it's expensive and even Andy's mom has been paying. I've never been cared for in such a way, not even by my... Read Full Story

I'm so happy and excited right now that I'm actually trembling. I just got off the phone after talking to Child Welfare in Bloemfontein and I spoke to the nicest and friendliest social worker I've ever come across. She took Dolf's telephone number and she is going to phone him to set up an appointment to speak to Lili. I'm feeling so much better, I hope that this social worker will see what is really going on. Read Full Story

I've had alot of people from South Africa ask me how it is to live here. In a way I can understand that, the first time I heard that Andy lived on an island it sounded so strange lol I guess I pictured it a whole lot different. Well, here are a few pictures: To describe it in my own words...it's like a cross between Bloemfontein's old historical buildings, Namakwaland's daisies, and Cape Town's cold sea and I'm in love with the island :o) Hmmm...just waiting for the pic uploads to work... Read Full Story